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I mentioned in my last post that I would write more about my brother. We referred to him as: (and his name has to be said really fast) Steven John Patrick Henry Murphy Fred George John Prochnow. This is all I’m writing about my brother Steve at this time because I chose to change my mind on this week’s writing!
Change is what makes me go around and around! In this post I’m going to write about emotions and relationships.
During my master’s level coursework at Drake University, I started studying emotions and continually learn how to apply what I’ve learned in my own life.
Over the years, I’ve come to realize and accept that I’m pretty adept at identifying a person’s emotions. What to do with that knowledge is what matters, especially as an empathetic rehabilitation counselor like me, with abilities to sense people’s emotions, and imagine what s/he might be thinking or feeling, and consider how I can help (if needed to help).
Randy and me at home after a church picture ~ Fall 2011 (the shot of us in the church directory looks like we’re related to Frankenstein!)
As a complex creature each human is driven by emotions, beliefs and various points of view that most likely do not coincide perfectly (if at all) with yours (Now, Now Randy…).
It can be difficult to understand all the emotions sailing around another person’s head, especially within a cultural context and from situation to situation. So to make it simple, let’s just consider basic emotions that could be experienced.
On top of basic emotions and beliefs, you or the other person may also be in any state of HALT – being Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired. (I am so happy I learned this acronym way back as a new mom!) If so (may want to first address any state of HALT ASAP: hungry: eat; angry: cool down; lonely: become involved in the world around you; tired: rest!), there will be a need to be more sensitive to any choices or decisions you make with that person.
Figure this sweetie out?
If bursts of emotion become too much to handle, what can you do? My way of answering this question involves taking a look at how people in love chose to culminate and sustain a healthy relationship .
You can sense how they appreciate each other. They freely accept their differences. They both are confident, responsible and believe in trust. They simply allow each other to be their own person. In my eyes, that’s the key….to the front door (if you want in).
The Keys to the Front and to the Back Door
And to answer the question regarding how to handle “emotional outbursts” rests in changing your mind. Choose to judge the situation or circumstance in exactly the opposite direction. The key to the back door (if you want out) is to change the way you think and feel about yourself and others. It’ll work, trust me!
Just be sure you’re not letting your feelings turn into facts….that will never happen.
Always Keep Both Keys on Hand And DON’T LOSE EM!
Please let me know how I can help you help your clients. If a persons’ emotions are significantly part of your case, I can provide the person’s true story which explain to others why emotions matter.
My professional rehabilitation counseling practice is focused on helping people participate in the world around them, particularly in their own world of work.