Dam! Need Help on a Case? I’ll Search Until I Find It!

Some days do you feel weird because part of your daily routine has changed? It happens quite regularly with me. Yes both, feeling weird and not having a typical day!

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Time that follows after finishing work on an in-depth legal case can feel unusual. How about the time after you’ve completed a project or a presentation that you had spent hours on or when you complete a long-term educational goal…and the homework is done! You know what I’m referring to. You feel different!  And kinda weird, which is okay. In fact it’s great.

After I’ve served as an expert, I can relax and think upon the experience and what I learned about myself and my role in the process. I consider  how I did good and how I could do better. My work opens up experiences where I continuously learn about work!

My everyday work as an “expert” requires me to research and study the subject matter at hand. So, I make my own homework all the time….and seem to like it! Am I or am I not an unusual person? I absolutely love to study and analyze information! And like my brother Steven always did, I like to come up with theories and see if I can prove or disprove them to myself. Some of Steve’s theories however, defied gravity, like his skateboard stunts, and water skiing….I still don’t know how he could fly!

Steve

The meaning is:  Crown, wreath

I looked up “Steven and dare devil” and found out that on August 18th 1985, a Rhode Island bartender named  Steven Trotter made the trip over Niagara Falls in a barrel wrapped in inner tubes. Mr. Trotter was fined a total of $5,503. Then, he did it again!  On June 18th, 1995, Steven returned to the Falls and made it another success. This time he and a female partner (a caterer) made the big drop together. That is all fine and good for them, but what about the rescuers? Somebody had to help get them out of “hot” water. Oh my! My brother Steven would’ve loved it! I remember as children visiting Niagara Falls (height of 167 feet!!) many moons ago with the family. I would love to visit again.

But instead I only need to travel to the pedestrian bridge over the Des Moines River. I love to stop on the south side of the Women of Achievement Bridge and gaze down at the beautiful falls from the Center Street dam…the dam height is 15 feet! I love the dam in Iowa Falls too which has a height of 26 feet! Or course the Saylorville dam is fun to visit too, especially when it’s flowing full force and you get splashed! Dams are gorgeous yet dangerous! Dam! 

Bud

Here’s to you bro! I always have a sip or two on July 17th (Budweiser is not my brand of beer) at a favorite local cemetery and let Randy drink the rest!

I think about people who are daredevils and what their personality and temperament are like. Okay, someone similar to my brother! Someone who takes risks, not silly or reckless dares, but a good slightly risky risk. Are you a person who accepts dares….or risks? Think about your job and your role at work. Think about how I can help you. Law involves uncertainties and risks that cannot be quantified. Some cases may be “risky” because of their sheer complexity or because the subject matter cannot be reasonably measured.

I recognize that when I’m called upon to help on a legal case everyone has a role in the process. From me you will receive a report that is clear, truthful and comprehensive. Here’s a little story about me:

I once searched for a solid week for a pearl that fell out off a ring from my finger as I was leaving my apartment. The pearl fell through the deck slats and landed somewhere in a huge mess of leaves, etc. below. I had to go to work, but upon coming home I looked for the pearl. I looked every time I left the apartment until there ya go! Image result for pearl blackI found it!  I am one persistent person when it comes to finding something I absolutely know is there! 

Image result for pearl black and white ring cartoonAn incredible ring!

If there is part of your job that is somewhat risky, convince your brain that you are not scared of said dare or risk, and how proud you will be of your accomplishment. Consider all outcomes, and don’t forget others who are or could become involved. Then gather the courage and just do it! Don’t stop until you are done. Feel the exhilaration! This is similar to serving as an expert witness!

Skydiver

 Be safe, especially if you have a dangerous job (or hobby)

What will I study next? How to sky dive?  I would love to! And I’ve thought about it……. Hummm, maybe in Brooklyn! Actually I want to get into art. Not that I’m good at drawing or painting. I just want to study and learn new techniques. Not that risky huh! Stay tuned!

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My professional rehabilitation counseling practice is focused on helping people participate in the world around them, particularly in their own world of work.

Be Honest, Save A Purse!

Recently, I freaked out…..the adrenalin spiked quickly the moment I fully realized it was gone. This was a wild mind body stressful experience!  You know what I mean (I hope, if not, and you don’t carry a purse, well, read no further..!) Ever lost your wallet? Anything realllly important?

You look everywhere, and then your brain remembers. I made a call. Yes! Gateway Market Café found a black purse. Four hours earlier, we had been out and about….in the bitter cold….and stopped to get some soup, sat down to wait, but then decided to change the food order to go. Guess who left something important behind?

Good Thing It's Not a Coach!
Good Thing It’s Not a Coach!

Good Thing It’s Not a Coach!

Bottom line for this blog besides keeping track of your things is that I truly believe people want to be honest. A pleasant employee of Gateway Market (I love the place!) answered the phone after only a couple rings, and after confirming and racing back, the nice guy with the long pony was quick to return it to me. Silly me [bonk self on side of head, harder….] But Whewwwwwww.

I did the same thing a few days earlier at the Botanical Gardens…left my purse at the top of the steps overlooking the beauty of the conservatory. There’s a better reason for my forgetfulness that time and it has to do with the excitement during this picture.

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Part of My Fam! Randy, me, ArinJune, Nick, Taylor, and Derek! 

I ran right back up the steps to retrieve it…..and it was gone! OMG.  I ran back down the stairs (thank goodness I do step aerobics!) and searched for my family, who had gone on to view more beautiful plants.

There she was, the woman with the two little girls who had taken the pictures from my phone. Ahh, there’s the fam too, and one of my lovely children had my phone. Phone and purse saved! Geez, don’t mess with a 51 year old!

Saving what you found and returning it to its rightful owners is right. Be Honest. It’s also a good idea to play more Lumosity brain training games!?!

During a vocational evaluation to help with the placement process, I assess the individual on his or her take of honesty at work. Stay tuned for a sharing success story about job placement!

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My professional rehabilitation counseling practice is focused on helping people find a place in the workforce

 

Artist in Training……Talent, Skills and Practice

Continuing on from last week’s post and my stated interest in my final ethics paper……I’m researching how I can learn about art.  I am a pretty good sidewalk chalk artist! Haahahaa! No really, I believe at my lovely age (wanna guess?), learning creative ways and techniques to spark new interests is good for the soul. This is just the beginning!

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What Shall Adorn The Driveway Today?

I have a goal to some day visit Hawaii, and an hopeful to see some of Walfrido Garcia’s works. Walfrido’s website has really cool visuals and videos for your viewing pleasure. I absolutely love this painting (see below) and it puts us right into today’s beauty and the week’s incredible weather forecast right here in Des Moines, Iowa!

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“Summer” by Walfrido

My son Jake is a talented artist…..and I am hopeful his future will open the eyes and minds of others when his works get noticed. For now, he is making his money working at Jimmy John’s!

Like many of life’s passions and callings, artistic ability is a a combination of both talent and practice. It is true that some people are predisposed to specific skills. Jake’s been drawing for ….. 16+ years!?! when he could use a pencil to draw (age 4?). And then he practiced and practiced, and has since……….probably 1st grade. For example, instead of doing math in 2nd grade, he’d draw wild creature-like numbers! And the teacher(s) always let us parents know what he was doing as opposed to what he wasn’t (this lasted all the way through high school graduation!)

Some people are good at drawing, and some at painting. Some at writing, some at speaking. Some at knitting, some at crocheting. Some at playing guitar, some at the piano (Yes!!!) Some at biking, some at running……and on and on and on!

I truly believe you can be good at whatever you want to do if you tap into your passion, your skill set, and your mindset. Practice does make perfect (in the eyes of the beholder or the eyes of the person who believes in the beholder.)

Eyes Are Difficult To Draw

More on Jake’s artistic drawing talent in the future of my creative writing blog. Have a beautiful and creative day! Take time to get some chalk, find a good place, and have fun drawing!

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My professional rehabilitation counseling practice is focused on helping people participate in the world around them, particularly in their own world of work.

 

January 2014 and Beyond….With No Wipeouts!

I hope you experienced a joyous and peaceful Holiday Season. Gains and losses experienced in 2013 turn the holidays into a happy and/or a sad time for many. I like to take it simple and slow…..but that didn’t happen this year…especially when it comes to the flurry of activity on Christmas Day.

I remember when the focus was on the gift opener/gift giver….not everyone at once!

Mom and Dad had the family for Christmas Day again this year. I keep a journal (not as complete as I used to and would like to…..) but blogging helps remember! I did really well blogging last year, however taking a year long course takes a toll on the time available to write (and do a lot of other things as well….). Anyway, here’s what transpired last year.

What will 2014 Bring?

I am ready to enter into round 3 (out of 4) of my educational program through GWU next week. My next course will be Law and the Rehabilitation Consultant. It will be interesting. I’ll be visiting Washington DC to culminate my program AND most importantly to visit with my niece Taylor Prochnow.

Taylor made an Iowa trip over the holidays to visit her loud and obnoxious family (that’s us). Taylor makes her home in Arlington, Virginia. She knows the ins and outs of the DC area and I am so excited to have her serve as a future tour guide.

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Me and T skating at the Brenton Plaza (no wipe outs!)

Taylor  graduated from the University of Miami and moved North to work in international relations. She works for a think tank in DC….more to come on her career some day (I need to learn more about what she does.) I am very proud of our beautiful Taylor Marie!

I hope your January is peaceful and the months to come bring what you foresee into your career. I’m excited about my career (especially with doing more life care plans!) in 2014 and in planning, I’m using the services of our local Small Business Development Center (SBDC) for free, confidential and customized advice! I recommend if you have a small business, or want to start one in 2014 to do the same. Here’s more information on the SBDC.

And back to the wiping out possibility. I didn’t wipe out as I was ice skating. But boy did I start slow and clunky (ice skating is not walking dummy…it’s more of a gliding motion.) I was getting into it!

 

Follow what you enjoy in 2014 and you will see success!

But then again, a wipe out (AKA a mistake or an error) will happen…..I’ve always been of the mindset that you learn from your mistakes.

Happy New Year! Be Safe, Make Good Choices, and Be Creative!

 

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My professional rehabilitation counseling practice is focused on helping people find a place in the workforce

 

 

 

 

Don’t Laugh if You’ve Done It!

Okay. This is not a first for me, but it is a first for me to admit it to the public. And you may have done it yourself so don’t laugh.

Here’s the situation: All dressed up, ready to jump in the car and take off for an appointment. Must be on time! Let’s go!

Oh wait, I can grab that bag of garbage and toss is out on my way.

So there it goes and OH NO! What the!? NOOOOOO. I heard a tinkly sound.

Again NO NO NO NO NO. Plus on top, it was the day before garbage day…the container was pretty full and really icky.  

I tip the container and go in. Deep down…..ewwww.

Bette's Key Fob

Luckily I found the keys. Yes, I little grossness on me, but PTL!

Lesson to be learned: Focus on one thing at a time. Multi-tasking is good but if you mess up that is not good. Pay attention.

Hope you have a nice work week! Don’t lose your keys!

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My professional rehabilitation counseling practice is focused on helping people find a place in the workforce.

How My Past has Brought Me to The Present! ~ A Non Traditional Student, Enlightenment & Marshmallows ~ Part 18

In my last blog, I started with the Little Brain – so on to him! Being the “non-traditional student” (aka not being 20ish) and being pregnant was … I’m trying to find the right descriptor ~ enlightening.

I was given greater knowledge and understanding about my situation!

Seriously I was enjoying my life immensely (still am!)  At that time, I was 30 years old, on my second pregnancy and feeling great.

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Ultrasound 2-1-1994……he’s sucking his thumb!  He being Jacob!

Here’s another glimpse of my story while attending Iowa State University. In the Spring of 1994, along with the 3 credit hour Social Work & Social Policy course I took and wrote about in the blog on March 5, 2012, I was taking 16 more credit hours, including one course called Human Diseases: Causes and Prevention (Health Studies 350).

Here is an excerpt from a paper I wrote on May 2, 1994, titled Personal Disease Projection: An Awareness Guide to My Own Health and Lifestyle.

My current lifestyle finds me reaching explicitly for a very positive and healthy outlook. I am very much enjoying my happy (yet workaholic) husband and our rambunctious five-year-old. We are eagerly awaiting a new child sometime in early August. I feel being 30 is treating me pretty good and I really can’t ask for more at this point in time (except to have my degree in Community Health Education NOW).

Since I am taking 19 credits this semester it was mandatory that I quit my day job, therefore, I only have one part-time job which pays a lot and is pretty non-stressful (I moonlight as a transcriptionist).  We recently (last October) purchased our first home and live in a nice, quiet neighborhood with friendly neighbors (except the mean old man right next door – anyway….)

During this time in my life, and I mentioned it in at the end of my paper,

“A possible cause of alarm is my stress management level.  I plan to learn new strategies to alleviate the stressors that can get to me. I am going to listen to more relaxing music – and try out the old adage of counting to 10 before I get angry.”

Gee, I guess I should’ve given my self a break…..!  And I hope you do whatever you need to/want to do to relax as well.  Here’s some great ideas for you to choose from to squash the stress:

Fun Ways To Reduce Stress

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Did you know…

-Laughter can reduce stress hormones
-Laughter boosts your immune system
-Laughter lowers your blood pressure
-Laughter can exercise certain muscles (diaphragm, abdominal, facial, neck, back, and leg)

Looking for a quick easy way to ‘work out’? Laugh! Did you know that laughing 100 times is the equivalent to 15 minutes on an exercise bike or 10 minutes on a rowing machine. Yep…it is. Amazing isn’t it?

 Here are amusing ways to reduce stress: (Some you may not want to try at home)

Yummy 

  • Jam 39 tiny marshmallows up your nose and try to sneeze them out.
  • Use your Mastercard to pay your Visa.
  • Pop some popcorn without putting the lid on.
  • When someone says “have a nice day”, tell them you have other plans.
  • Forget the Diet Center and send yourself a candygram.
  • Make a list of things to do that you have already done.
  • Dance naked in front of your pets.
  • Put your toddler’s clothes on backwards and send him off to pre-school as if nothing is wrong.
  • Retaliate for tax woes by filling out your tax forms in Roman numerals.
  • Tattoo “out to lunch” on your forehead.
  • Tape pictures of your boss on watermelons and launch them from high places.
  • Leaf through a “National Geographic” and draw underwear on the natives.
  • Go shopping. Buy everything. Sweat in it. Return it the next day.
  • Pay your electric bill in pennies.
  • Drive to work in reverse.

 Freddy 

  • Relax by mentally reflecting on your favorite episode of “The Flintstones” during the finance meeting.
  • Tell your boss to blow it out of his mule and let him figure it out.
  • Read the dictionary upside down and look for secret messages.
  • Bill your doctor for the time spent in his waiting room.
  • Braid the hair in each nostril.
  • Write a short story, using alphabet soup.
  • Lie on your back eating celery using your navel as a salt dipper.
  • Stare at people through the lines of a fork and pretend they’re in jail.
  • Make up a language and ask people for directions.
  • Write a message to your doctor on your hip so he can see it during the bone marrow harvest.

Practice up on how to walk like a zombie

  • Count how many minutes it takes to stare at the phone before it rings.
  • Bring “Three Stooges” movies and insist your nurse has to see them with you before you’ll take your chemo.
  • Buy a fake i.d. and have a free Denny’s breakfast for you birthday.
  • Tell your family you have plans and then do absolutely nothing.
  • Leave a message with farm animal sounds on someone’s answering machine.
  • Redecorate your house. Fingerpaint the walls and blame it on the kids.Determine your strength. Thumb wrestle with your own right and left hand
  • See how many people are listed in the phone book with your last name. Call and tell them you’re their long lost cousin.
  • Walk around the block and count all the pot holes in your street.
  • Read tea bags.
  • Give yourself a pat on the back and affirm that you made it another day.

Be truthful….how many have you really done….or really plan to do soon?  In quick review, I have done…well, never mind!  Do you have any good stressor squashers you’d like to add?

Jake's drawing Landshark

Back to Jacob….drawing helps destress him!

Today, Monday March 19, 2012, leads us closer and closer to Jacob’s high school graduation! The ceremony is on Sunday, May 27 at 7:00 pm at the Drake Knapp Center. Time to celebrate!

Happy Spring!

 

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My professional rehabilitation counseling practice is focused on helping people find a place in the workforce